Of the many women I have talked to over the last few weeks, I have noticed an reoccurring cry for help...from my clients, friends and the Mom's Empowerment Circle I host. So many women are running around like crazy without giving themselves a moment to think, just to be, just to breathe. Men go through this too! Whether us women are over-achievers with or without families or relationships, it all doesn't matter. Many of us have this reoccurring feeling that father time is not on our side. I used to feel like this 24/7 until I woke up and focused on shifting my outlook. When we can't think straight, have a difficult time getting clear on what we want, feel our creativity is blocked and are aware we are not enjoying the present moment, that is when we know something has to shift. But what? My easy answer is meditation. It's the best way to calm your mind, bring more peace into your life and allow you to discover your inner wisdom. Problem is a lot of people have an aversion to “sitting meditation.” Just the thought of it brings resistance. If this is you, than I have some other fun tips towards clearing your mind in order to listen to yourself and get answers to your most pressing personal questions or tap into your depths of creativity.
The Art of Doing Nothing:
Doing nothing doesn't always mean staring into space, but it can be engaging in solo activities that allow you to be present in the moment and don't require you to think too much. Swimming comes to mind for me because that action allows me to clear my mind. I have all sorts of insights when I get out of the pool. Walking the dog, mopping the floor, whatever...all these mindless activities can offer insights if you are open.
Give yourself the gift of time....to do NOTHING. Whatever 'nothing 'means to you. It could be lounging, walking, movement of some sort, solitude away from family or friends, a solo day trip away from the house to do “nothing”, whatever. “Nothing” means that you are “being” without much “thinking or doing.”(No technology zone for doing nothing.) Make it a point.
Stare at the ceiling. If you don't want to formally meditate, try what my friend does. She just tells everyone she needs a moment and lays down to stare at the ceiling for a few minutes. I thought that was a great idea as an alternative to formal meditation. Just don't fall asleep.
Create something that offers you a little escape and doesn't take much thought. Some people love knitting, painting, drawing for this reason. I embroider and that's an activity that allows me to release my thoughts. Even though there is action taking place, I consider it under the art of doing nothing because I'm not running around, planning or engaging with others. What can you create that can offer you a window into your vast intuitive imagination?
4. Go to nature and just be. Enough said. Beach lover? Tree hugger? Go to where you feel inspired and moved. Just go and sit or walk. There is something to be said for the simple life. I will never forget my high school BF reflecting on life and sharing that her favorite job was the high school job she had at our local private beach in Long Island. Minimal responsibilities and getting paid to hang at the beach all day was ideal. I remember many lazy summer days riding my bike down long windy roads, past beautiful homes near the beach to just hang with her. Oh the carefree days of youth! We can still carve out time for carefree days if we make the effort.
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Fun news! I was interviewed by Alex Jamieson, a celebrated health & life coach, author, friend and client, for her podcast Her Rules Radio. For her show "Why I finally sold my Oscar dress" we have a fun, insightful, conversation about the power of personal style, a bit of history about how I fell in love with fashion and how I helped her with a major life cleanse through my Style Rejuvenation program. It all began in her closet and culminated with an open mind and refreshed soul plus a super fresh collection of fabulous clothing for a revamped, sexy wardrobe to reflect her new beginning. After attending the Oscars with her then husband Morgan Spurlock for their Oscar-nominated documentary "Super Size Me", Alex kept this gorgeous beaded gown under her bed for years. Check out the show to hear my reaction.