I found the recent speech from Tracee Ellis Ross at Glamour Magazine's 2017 Women of the Year Summit truly inspiring. She was talking about the societal pressure on her being 45 and single with no children. Though I am the opposite, married with a child, the plight of the feminine is universal. (Ironically her mother Diana Ross, is my ultimate icon. I actually wanted to be The Boss for most of my youth. Yes, I can sing. ) Tracee was saying how she was free flowing writing in her journal and wrote the words...“My life in mine.” She stopped dead in her tracks. This true awareness was life-changing for her. She stated... “I've become the woman that I am very proud to be.” Are you proud of who you are today? I hope so. If not, than you know it's time to make some changes.
YES, your life is yours. We do not have to conform to all these societal norms. Sometimes when we do, we end up miserable. Even when I am upset about a specific situation, I am reminded that when I look at life as a whole, my life is beautiful. I inherently know yours is too.
It's so vital to enjoy the lives we lead, and if we are not satisfied, than we must take active steps to change them. I am so happy to witness such radical transformations for a client that had such a demanding job as a corporate lawyer she was working around the clock. How is she going to carve out time to have a relationship and a family of her own if she works 24/7? After much deliberation, she took a major risk and decided to leave her firm to take a different career path. This is scary stuff...but after many rounds, she landed her new dream job.
To top that off, she truly pushed past her comfort zone and practiced the art of 'asking for what you want.' She was about to lose her annual bonus for leaving her job prematurely. Despite all the legalities, she got up the nerve to ask for her bonus anyway. Guess, what, the powers that be said YES despite the contract rules that she wasn't eligible. Miracles happen when you speak up for yourself! Now she is vacationing with friends before her new job starts, which will be less hours allowing for her to enjoy regular leisure time to experience life on her terms. She shared that is she proud of who she has become. I am proud of the bravery to make the necessary changes to live life on her terms.
The New Year is coming around and it's the perfect time to set new intentions. If you feel the time is now for you to take action; if you really want to accomplish some major life goals; if you know you need to shift your mindset about things or you will stay stagnant, than you may want to take me up on my complimentary Spark Session. Miracles unfold.
#GivingTuesday has passed, but it's not too late to donate to my family's non-profit h2 Empower. In rural Ethiopia girls have the job of going to get water for the family. Even when they go to the river, the water may not be clean. Globally, girls and women spend around 200 million hours every day gathering water. h2 Empower has put water in 4 schools and now we want to add a 5th. When this happens, the girls can stay in school and the entire community benefits. Help us help these families have safe water supply. This is my mother's life's work. Would love for you to join us to transform lives in Ethiopia. Go to www.h2empower.com to support our water campaign.