Don't you love those spontaneous profound experiences that end up being the best times ever? Well I got an impromptu lesson on the power of radiance and freedom that inspired me to share insights on getting our glow on and letting the rest go. 

It all went down when I witnessed the headliner at Afro Punk's Fancy Dress Ball who was none other than Grace Jones. My words can't express the sheer appreciation of individuality and bold creativity that exuded from this icon. Now, her voice is no Chaka, she may not be the premiere hit-maker, but that actually meant nothing. I have never seen anything quite like it, costume changes for EVERY song and all. Wearing nothing but a corset, g-string and Nigerian Ibo tribal paint inspired by collaborations with her friend Keith Haring, she proceeded to exude sheer freedom, confidence, wild imaginative creative expression and pure fearlessness...all at the ripe age of 67! My life unexpectedly shifted a bit that night.

Grace Jones performs at the Afro Punk Festival 2015. Photo credit: Nicole Fara Silver for The New York Times.

Grace Jones performs at the Afro Punk Festival 2015. Photo credit: Nicole Fara Silver for The New York Times.

This empowering quote from Marianne Williamson broke down my reawakening oh so eloquently....

"Our worst fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.  We ask ourselves, "who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?"  Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God; your playing small doesn't serve the world.  There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.  We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.  It is not just in some of us, it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.  As we are liberated from our own fear our presence automatically liberates others."

Some of us just naturally exude that power, freedom and radiance, but all of us have it. Oh boy, I spent decades dimming my light. It's a crying shame. Those that know me, may say, “What is she even talking about?” I like to be bold, look my best, do my best, but it is true. My upbringing to be the good girl, the responsible one, the Catholic girl/strict stereotypes are all within me. I found it difficult to shed all that and just feel free. I noticed about myself that I am strong, confident and daring in some areas of my life and then just succumb to old negative habit energy in other areas of life. Awareness is everything. Had to go through the darkness to get to the light. I'll forever be on the path, but I am conscious of my own radiance and my deepest intention is for all of us to radiate our own powerful essence.  Despite being inspired or even envious of others, we can only truly be ourselves.

Playing it small is officially over.

5 KEYS to radiate your own glow and let the rest go.

  1. Be bold----for you. Definition: don't try to be someone you're are not, just push your personal boundaries beyond those comfort zones. You know what I did to shock my comfort zone? I posted a picture on Instagram of myself in my retro bikini poolside with one of my close friends. For those that know me, I would normally NEVER do such a thing. I'm not that type, but for others girls that's no big deal. What small step will you take to move beyond your comfort zone?

  2. Let Go and release all the bullsh*t. I normally do this exercise on New Year's Eve, but was recently reminded of the powerful exercise from my friend & health coach guru Alex Jamieson... Get small pieces of paper, ex. index cards and on each paper write down one thing you want to let go of. What fears are holding you back? What difficulty in your life are you ready to purge? What thoughts are you ready to free yourself from? Then go and burn it. Release it all into the universe and let it go. It's quite freeing.

  3. Put the time into how you dress and present yourself to the world. Want to exude radiance? WEAR COLOR. I've said it before and I'll say it again. What colors do you love? Wear a little something in that color.  After the guided meditation I offered at my last Visioning Party,  the color red really resonated with a guest and I suggested she wear more red in her wardrobe and be bold with red lips. Seriously, such amazing life transformations happened for her after doing so. I love fashion icon Iris Apfel's quote "Downtown, they think they're so stylish, but they all wear black. That's not really style. That's a uniform.” Try wearing an accessory that offers you a sense of power. I wear certain bracelets and rings that remind me of my inner radiance. It may sound crazy, but it works for me. (I offer my “Style Rejuvenation” program to busy mamas who lost their way with their personal style and need to get their wardrobe and mindset back to fly-ness. If this resonates with you, find out more here.) My personal motto, has always been, "If you look good, you feel good." I'm hosting a beauty & wellness event on Sept. 29th in NYC entitled "LOOK GOOD, FEEL GOOD." Click here for the evite or see below.

  4. The power of meditation.  It's oh so cliché at this point, but if you don't already have a meditation practice, try it. There are countless teachings on meditation, but just start by giving yourself the gift of silence and follow the rhythm of your breath. Sitting for even 10 minutes can be quite transformative.  Here is a little gatha (short poem) by Zen Master Ven. Thich Nhat Hahn to aid or enhance your meditation.  Even if it's 5 minutes a day.....just do it.  I feel the difference on days when I meditate and when I skip it.

           Breathe In, I am breathing in

           Breathe Out, I am breathing out

           Breathe In, I calm my body

           Breathe Out, I smile

          Present Moment, Wonderful Moment - 

When you put a small smile on your face during your breathing, you'd be surprised all the positive energy you emit and receive.

5. Move that Body. What do you love to do? Pilates, soccer, tennis, rock climbing, anything, just get up and do it. Movement is the basis for all transformation. Without your health, there is nothing. I can barely catch a ball for anything but swimming is my love, what is yours?

What does Radiance mean to you? I would love to hear your comments, so please share here and with your friends. Do you have a deep desire to shed some false beliefs and rediscover your inner radiance to make some serious moves? Click here for a complimentary coaching Spark Session with me.

Chillin' on The Highline in NYC. A splash of bold color livens me up. Try mixing in color if you find yourself in the neutral safe zone.

Chillin' on The Highline in NYC. A splash of bold color livens me up. Try mixing in color if you find yourself in the neutral safe zone.