This is difficult to admit, but for much of my life, I never really felt like I belonged within various environments I found myself in. Being that I have a bi-racial background and was raised in a Long Island suburb, race was always a huge factor in that feeling. But there was so much more to it. It's interesting that mixing deep personal growth with the natural fact of aging, I have overcome the sense of not belonging here or there. This illustration below sums up my life in one swoop. “Blend in, for what?” Why the hell was I even trying all these years? I actually gave up trying a few years ago which resulted in a sense of freedom and inner peace.
It's all about embodying who you are at the core. As a woman, tapping into feminine power, that many of us girls have glossed over for too long, has proved to be pretty dramatic. People who know me may think it's strange that I say I felt like I didn't belong. All of us have insecurities and when you are often considered on the fringe... even freakish to some, who knows what untruths can develop in one's mind. “I don't belong” was one of my strange 'false beliefs.' Now I look back and see all those missed opportunities because I felt like I didn't belong, when truly, I actually did. I was down, but sometimes just didn't notice. What I do know is that life is too short. It's time to live our truth. Open up. I'm trying.
How do we overcome our most damaging false beliefs about ourselves? It's deep and does require serious introspection and inner work, but you can try these few steps:
Take some solo quiet time for yourself. Try meditation or relax for a few minutes. Indulge in nature. It's vital to give your mind and mouth a rest. This allows you to tap into your inherent wisdom which will allow you to take action based on instincts & inner knowing. ( I know for some of us, it's a challenge to keep our mouths shut.)
If there is something you are looking to overcome, it's a good idea to journal about it. The written word offers for some a window to the soul. Things come out that you won't believe. Even if you don't care for writing, try it anyway. ( You can always burn the notes, to release them to the universe or trash them.)
Set a 'power statement' to counter act your false belief. Create a short sentence to powerfully state your truth. An example, if you feel “I don't belong.” Your powerful intention could be as simple as “I belong.” Once you create this statement, it's important to state it aloud and/or read it daily. (This works remarkably well if you stick to it.)
Now that I inherently know I belong in the places I surround myself, my mindset has drastically shifted. I'm very in tune to energy more that ever, so I can sense in my body and energy what and who are right for me and what is not vibing. I was so surprised when I attended this event last year where I would normally feel like an outsider and even though it wasn't my type of crowd, I totally felt like I belonged and the people around me reciprocated that vibe. I was shocked how quickly a change in consciousness actually benefited me. Doors open.
Do you have a false belief you want to shift? Have you altered your consciousness based on a false belief you have had? Have you ever felt like an outsider? I'd love to hear from you below. If you feel like you may want to go deeper shifting those false beliefs, reach out to me for a Spark Session. It's fun stuff.